Mamá comparte su dolor y explica porqué la gente no debe llamar a sus hijas "medio hermanas"

Rachel Sobel, madre de dos, está molesta por la forma en que sus hijas son tratadas, y explica el porqué nadie debe categorizar la relación de sus hijas.

Rachel, previamente divorciada, tiene una hija de su primer matrimonio. Tras volverse a casar, tuvo otra hija, ocho años después de su primogénita. En un principio, le preocupó la diferencia de edad, pero al poco tiempo, sus miedos se disiparon, ya que "la mayor es la protectora, y la pequeña es su sombra".

Los hermanos que no tienen ambos padres en común también tienen dos familias en vez de una. Si bien hay posibles ventajas y desventajas a tener una familia extra grande, sigue siendo una familia, y el trato debe ser exactamente el mismo.

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I could have posted a perfectly posed family photo. One with everyone actually looking at the camera, perhaps even smiling and wearing matchy clothes that aren’t stained. The perfect picture of the perfect family to participate in #internationalhappinessday . But that’s not real life. At least not mine. Everyday I walk around cleaning up after everyone who lives here but my house is never the way I want. On any given day one of the dogs has used my floor as a toilet or puked on the rug. I cook multiple meals for both children who have zero interest in eating anything ever. My husband works long days and by the time he gets home I’ve usually developed a nervous twitch. My to-do list feels like quicksand many days as I’m adding more items than I am checking off. Almost every day, I am basically rocking that cliche “mom uniform” consisting of some variation of work out gear. I end up at the grocery store at least three times a week sometimes because I’m constantly forgetting something. I’m overworked, sleep-deprived, and the bags under my eyes are obscene. Yet, I’m happy. The happiest I’ve ever been actually. Because even with the constant pandemonium, my house is overflowing with love. Admitting your chaos doesn’t mean you’re not happy. It’s possible to have both. It’s real life to have both. Happiness is not black & white. It’s personal to you and should be celebrated no matter what it looks like. . . . #internationaldayofhappiness #happiness #family #momlife #motherhoodthroughinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #kids #lifewithkids #momsbelike #momminainteasy #whineandcheezits #reallife #realtalk #honestparenting #momtruth #parenting #parenthood #parentingblogger #momblogger #momproblems #momstyle #momhumor #forrealtho #momsofinstagram #momsohard #bestoftheday #marriage

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De la misma forma en que todos los hermanos juegan, pelean y demuestran afecto, sus hijas son muy cercanas, no son "medio" nada, y tener padres distintos no afecta el vínculo entre ellas. "Ellas asumieron el rol de hermanas tan natural y amorosamente, ¿por qué no puedes todos los demás aceptarlo y hacer lo mismo?", escribió.

Si bien las niñas técnicamente son medio-hermanas, la gente suele señalarlo, y constantemente le recordaban a la mayor que la bebita es su media-hermana. Para Rachel, eso es simplemente una rcaracterización incorrecta de la relación que comparten.

"Cada vez que la palabra media-hermana sale casualmente de la boca de alguien, como si no fuera gran cosa, mi hija mayor se siente mal. Me pregunta por qué la gente sigue diciendo eso y qué significa para ellos, y busca señales de cómo se supone que debe sentirse sobre su hermana. Es molesto, me enfurece, y francamento, es de mal corazón".

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These two are madly in love. The big one is a fierce protector and the little one mimics every single thing she does. The big one asked me over and over for a sibling from the time her dad and I got divorced. I sat in her bed reading her stories knowing I was pregnant and bursting with joy to eventually tell her. Then I sat in her bed reading her stories, following my miscarriage, with my eyes welling up when she ask me about having another baby. Then this little miracle happened and came busting into this world 2 weeks before I turned 40. She changed all of us. She is a force and has everyone in the palm of her hand. And yes, there are times the big one doesn’t want to play and just wants to talk to her friends. There are times her little sister annoys the shit out of her. But then there are moments like this. Where it’s just the two of them left to their own devices and they each take on their respective roles of big and little. THIS is what I prayed for. THIS is what I always wanted. For me. For my husband. For them. THIS is EVERYTHING. Sometimes you have a fairy tale fantasy of what your life will look like but have no idea that the reality is so much better. . . . . #momlife #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #realtalk #honestparenting #girlmom #daughter #momtruth #parenting #parenthood #parentingblogger #momblogger #momproblems #momstyle #momhumor #momprobs #forrealtho #momsofinstagram #sisters #blendedfamily #motherhoodthroughinstagram #kids #lifewithkids #momsbelike #momminainteasy #whineandcheezits #reallife #bestoftheday #picoftheday

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La madre de dos trabaja duro para darle un hogar lleno de amor a ambas niñas, y no le gusta que la gente critique su situación o le reste importancia a lo que han construido. Señalando que son una familia como cualquier otra, implora a los demás a pensarlo dos veces antes de comentar sobre las dinámicas familiares de los demás.

Desde la perspectiva de las "medio-hermanas", la situación pinta muy distinto. A pesar de que hay una considerable diferencia de edad, de aspecto e incluso de raza, para ellas, siguen siendo hermanas.

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Sometimes, we strive to get that perfect picture. The one where everyone is looking at the camera just so and doing what they’re “supposed” to do. The one that is grade-A holiday card material. They’re the ones you frame and put around your house. The ones you post on social media. But as I get older and wiser and watch my kids grow, strengthening their bond, it’s the candid, blurry, in-the-moment pictures that really take my breath away. The ones that show their personality. The ones where their love for each other is palpable. I snapped this last night as my girls were just enjoying each other and being silly, and almost deleted it. But I didn’t. It’s blurry and messy and beautiful and real, just like our life. I’m in love with it. So, take a closer look before you delete a picture you took in the moment. You might be surprised how amazing it is. . . . . . #momlife #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #parenting #parenthood #parentingblogger #momblogger #momproblems #momstyle #momhumor #momprobs #forrealtho #momsofinstagram #motherdaughter #motherhoodthroughinstagram #sisters #siblings #blendedfamily #kids #lifewithkids #momsbelike #momminainteasy #whineandcheezits #reallife #realtalk #honestparenting #girlmom #daughter #momsohard #familyphotography

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El término causa separación y confusión, sin mencionar la molestia de tener que explicarle tu estructura familiar a alguien, sólo para que te respondan, "ah, es que sólo son medio-hermanas".

Cuando les preguntan qué padre tienen en común, la pregunta es redundante y prefieren evitarla, después de todo, son familia y son hermanas, ¿por qué tienen que reducir su relación y su vínculo?

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Otra que implora por un cambio a la hora de expresarnos es Sandra Bullock. La actriz, conocida por su lucha para promover la adopción, explicó el motivo por el cual no utiliza la palabra “adoptado”. En una entrevista muy personal, la famosa artista dejó ver que tiene muy claro que una familia se basa en el amor y no en el ADN.

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